I have this discussion with people all the time. We often get caught up in the day to day life that we forget to take a step back and remind ourselves that we can’t pour from an empty cup.
Self care is an essential part of every person’s life and one that is often pushed aside.
Let me repeat… YOU CAN NOT POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP.
Whether you are consumed with things at work, are struggling with a relationship or are trying to create a little human – YOU should always come first.  We live in a society that pushes us constantly and burnout is common.  If we don’t take care of ourselves then how can we take care of others.  If creating a family is something you are working on, then it is even more imperative that you get a handle on this.  Bringing a new being into your family that relies on you for every small thing isn’t the time to start figuring out self care but definitely is one of the main times when we need it.  It’s hard to be a good parent when all you want is sleep and timeout. Don’t wait until that baby is here – start now, think positively and plan for the future.  Remember why you are on this journey to start with, don’t forget about your relationship with yourself and your significant other. <3
So! HOW DO YOU DO THIS? Well honestly, there is no one answer and this is different for everyone.  It takes a bit of trial and error to see what works for you but here is where you can start.
  1. Make a list of all the things you enjoy doing (no limitations – hobbies, pampering, vacations, etc)  Check out this list for some ideas to get you started!
        2. Categorize that list into time (ie things that take 15 minutes or less, 15 minutes – 1 hour, 1+
hours, 1+ days) as well as cost (ie things that are free, low, medium costs and higher end)
        3. Lastly start putting them in your calendar and set reminders! Things that are 15 minutes and
less…do one of these EVERY DAY. There is no excuse for not having 15 minutes to yourself
each and every day. The items that take longer and/or cost more…book them in weekly, bi-
weekly or monthly (whatever best suits your budget).  You can use these items as motivation
throughout the week – something to look forward to after your appointments maybe?
When my husband and I went to our fertility clinic appointments we would hustle through them, then jump in the car and go to a LITTLE CAFE nearby to enjoy some quiet time together drinking coffee/tea and a still warm out of the oven muffin (because we were there so early!) This made the process more manageable and always gave us something to look forward to on a not so fun day. Plus it was a bonus to have time to process afterwards and quiet time together.   When I look back on our journey this is a really nice memory I have of it and time together that I’m so thankful for.  I also think this was key in really strengthening our relationship through this challenging time.
Fertility struggles are hard! Life is hard!  Don’t forget to give yourself a little loving on a REGULAR BASIS to nurture yourself. <3
What is your favourite self care item?
Is there something you do to lighten the weight of fertility treatments and appointments?

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